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Two Education Officials Join Brookdale Board
Saturday, 22 November 2014
LINCROFT, NJ – Dr. Henry Cram of Long Branch and Paul Crupi of Ocean were sworn in as the newest members of the Brookdale Community College board of trustees during the board’s Nov. 20 annual meeting in Lincroft. Cram, a former teacher, college... Read More...
Lots of Holiday Cheer at the Art Alliance
Saturday, 22 November 2014
100 Square Inches, Betsey Regan, And the Artisan Show & Sale RED BANK, NJ - Hate waiting for the show to end so you can get that art piece you love? As a gift for the holidays, the Art Alliance will let you buy a work in the gallery and... Read More...
Novelist Julia Alvarez to Speak at Brookdale
Saturday, 22 November 2014
LINCROFT, NJ – Community members of all ages are invited to an evening with award-winning novelist Julia Alvarez at Brookdale Community College’s Collins Arena on Tuesday, Nov. 25 from 7 to 9 p.m. The discussion will center on Alvarez’s... Read More...
IMAGE The Community YMCA Bayshore Family Success Center “Ties” Itself to New Community at Their Open House in Leonardo
Friday, 21 November 2014
Photo: The staff of the Bayshore Family Success Center with The Community YMCA President and CEO Rhonda Anderson, at the ribbon tying during their open house on November 20.  Pictured L-R are: Alicia Maresco, Megan Kelly, Rhonda Anderson,... Read More...
Major Loophole in NJ Microbeads Ban Legislation
Friday, 21 November 2014
5 Gyres, NY/NJ Baykeeper, and Clean Ocean Action support alternative Keyport, N.J. - New Jersey Bill S2178 would phase out plastic microbeads in personal care products such as toothpastes and exfoliating face washes, beginning January... Read More...

Columns

IMAGE Chronic Fatigue Syndrome Often Not Believed
by Daniel J. Vance
Saturday, 22 November 2014
Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS), also called Chronic Fatigue Immune Dysfunction Syndrome, had Carl Miller of Georgetown, Ohio, and his doctors,... Read More...
IMAGE Imparted Concepts
by George Hancock-Stefan
Friday, 21 November 2014
I heard on the news that a baseball player, Giancarlo Stanton, received the highest salary that has ever been paid ($325 million over 13... Read More...
IMAGE Review - Interstellar
by David Prown
Friday, 21 November 2014
I was definitely not jonesing to see "Interstellar" as I'm not really a big special effects guy however I've always liked space movies. My son saw it... Read More...
IMAGE Take It From Snoopy
by Anne Mikolay
Thursday, 20 November 2014
Recently, I cleaned out a trunk full of ancient artifacts from my high school days and came across a little book titled “Happiness is a warm... Read More...
IMAGE Happy Birthday to a Group Very Special to Atlantic Highlands
by Jack Archibald
Thursday, 20 November 2014
This column typically avoids mentioning birthdays, as each of us is special and our birthday is something to be celebrated.  But a recent... Read More...

Upcoming Events

Mon Nov 24 @11:00AM - 01:00PM
Diabetes Awareness Day
Wed Nov 26 @ 9:30AM - 10:00AM
Baby Story Time Ages 10 – 24 months
Wed Nov 26 @10:30AM - 10:50AM
Toddler Story Time Ages 2 & 3
Thu Nov 27 @ 9:00AM - 11:00AM
Middletown Mayor Open Office Hours
Thu Nov 27 @ 3:15PM - 03:45PM
School Age Programs Grades K and up

rbr_drunk_driving_1Alison Wheeler calls it “DJ’s tree” the nearly ten-year old makeshift memorial that marks the spot D. J. Wheeler of Middletown lost his life at 18 years old, flung from the back seat of a car driven by a drunken driver. Alison, D.J.’s oldest sister and a Red Bank Charter School teacher, spoke to RBR students during the kick-off to Project Prom, which promotes wise choices.  Project prom has been conducted for the past nine years to try to prevent tragedies that befell the Wheeler family.

Little Silver, NJ -  Alison Wheeler is a third grade teacher at the Red Bank Charter School.  She may have been addressing the older brothers and sisters of some of her students when she spoke to Red Bank Regional’s (RBR) graduating class during Project Prom week.  But it was a sister who talked and wept to the brothers and sisters of others on how her family’s life was forever changed when a drunken driver took her beloved brother DJ’s life nearly 10 years ago. 

On the giant screen behind her, video was reliving the 2003 Middletown High School South pre- prom pictures. A very handsome, tall, and dimple faced D.J. was seen beaming as he boarded the bus to the prom with his date. His mom could be seen whispering something in his ear.  Alison revealed that her mother was muttering yet another futile plea for him not to acquire his threatened tattoo during prom weekend.  DJ would return home safe from prom weekend with a Celtic cross tattooed on his leg. 

The family was proudly Irish-American with all its rich cultural and religious traditions.  Christmas was their favorite holiday, but no one loved it more than DJ.  The Wheeler kids, Alison, her younger sister Erin and DJ, would make homemade decorations each year and decorate their family Christmas tree. DJ even got a part-time job helping other families pick out their trees at a local tree farm. 

Then one fatal November night, six months after prom and high school graduation, DJ, who wasn’t drinking, got into the car of teenager who was.  Three boys were ejected from the car, which had to be traveling at very high speed on Middletown-Lincroft Road. Only DJ was killed.  Now a Celtic cross tombstone from Ireland adorns his grave, and the Wheelers do not put up Christmas trees anymore-- not yet.  The drunk driver was given a three-year sentence for killing her little brother, who played high school football and hockey and was attending college to maybe become a harbor pilot as his dad.  Instead, he is forever 18, and the Wheeler family is left to live a life sentence of regret. This was the powerful message that Allison hoped would resonate with other 18 year-olds during the week of happy prom preparation-- that one mistake could alter your life forever.

For nine years RBR has held a week of programs to prevent similar tragedies which, according to RBR school resource officer Robert Chenoweth, spike around prom time. A mock crash is usually held with the participation of local first responders. This year’s event was cancelled for inclement weather, but several compelling videos were shown to the senior class followed by poignant speakers, including Alison, who were very potent in delivering their message.  Area defense attorney Mitch Ansell detailed the penalties for drinking and driving in the state of New Jersey.  He punctuated his remarks with the sad tales of clients currently serving prison time for such offenses, their lives in shambles. Funeral Director Jerry Tilden whose own son graduated from RBR, has been involved in similar prom presentations in several states since the day he responded to a horrific crash in Connecticut, which took lives of three young ladies. (He explained that funeral personnel are often asked to respond to such tragedies acting as the representative of the coroner’s office.)

“Just think,” he told the students, “Who is going to answer the door at two or three in the morning when the police come to tell your family that you are dead?”

Programs continue throughout the week with police officers from Little Silver visiting all senior classes during gym and or health class and detailing the fines and penalties for drunk driving and sharing national statistics with the students. Little Silver Officers Chenoweth and Pete Gibson also orchestrate a simulated drunk driving course using golf carts and fatal-vision goggles. Students perform exercises while wearing the goggles which simulate a vision handicap similar to intoxication.

Officer Chenoweth states, “We conduct this program every year around this time to reinforce the importance of making the right decisions so as not to become part of the national statistics.”

Sadly, the RBR Class of 2013 is less immune to such personal tragedy.  Their immortal teenage armor has been tarnished this school year after losing two of their own to sudden death from natural causes. Still, as Little Silver Officer Pete Gibson told them, “In a perfect world no one would drink under 21 years of age, but this isn’t a perfect world. And if you do, you just can’t get behind the wheel of a car or in anyone’s car who is drinking.”